I’m feeling sorry that Margie seems down for the count right now. It brings into perspective the hard times we people have trying to get along. Can’t we just get along? Shoot, sometimes time I barely get along with myself.
Volunteering at a local garden for nearly 7 years, I’ve watched a number of volunteers get burned and burned out. One of our most valued members quit a couple weeks ago. She had been driving 1 1/2 hours round trip twice a week to nurture new plants for the garden and for sale to raise funds for the garden. She did a fabulous job in the greenhouse. But her feelings got hurt. She felt dissed by people working in other areas of the garden and she quit! She left her team of 10-15 people learning her propagation techniques on their own. She has a wealth of knowledge that can’t be easily replaced and I really don’t understand walking away from all she had started.
As a fledgling organization we recently opened a gift shop in hopes of raising funds for more planting and more educational programs. The first two people heading up the shop got their feelings hurt and quit without notice. I’ve got no bznz experience and my last retail job lasted 3 months in 1969. But I stepped in as temporary shopkeeper. I asked the volunteer coordinator to find a replacement for me asap. It took almost a year. During that time I kept the administration informed that I was going to leave, but I wasn’t going to leave in a huff.
I lean into things. I let people know when I’m dissatisfied and make plans for transitions as much as possible. When the replacement gift shop manager was found I was thrilled. I gave her my number, my email, my files and offered to meet with her weekly as long as she wanted and walked away happily. She quit after a month.
I guess that’s what people do.
Maybe I’m the kind of person that inspires people to sing, “How can I miss you when you won’t go away?”
Maybe this is the good side of stubborn?
Blogs are written by different people for different purposes. I think I remember Margie feeling ambivalent about her blog for the past season. I wonder if the woman that headed up propagation was weary of the work load she was carrying and the last misunderstanding was just a good excuse to walk away. I’ve pulled away from my very personal blog for very personal reasons at times. Mostly I was just struck dumb with fear that what I had to say hurts my DD. Or maybe I was feeling like I just didn’t have anything of merit to say.
What am I doing speculating about why Margie closed her blog? Why does anyone close down? What business is it of mine? I don’t feel like I knew her well enough to ask her. But I knew her blog well enough to feel it’s a loss to many people. It’s loss is to much more than me. I do want to say THANK YOU MARGIE for the time you blogged. I’ll send that out to the universe and that will have to do.
And a little quote from a young celebrated adoptee, “People need to persevere around this town!”
Perfection may not be available. The paradox is still going for it.
The best I can end up with is excellence, and excellence in loving is good enough for me.